1. Collaboration, Not Confrontation: Then your son plays video games instead of cleaning his room, as he said.
If he confronts them and asks why they are not doing what they should do, he will only put his son on the defensive. And they probably have no answer or do not know why.
Instead, pass it on with a reminder: "Remember to clean up your room now, let's get back in. If you resist, ask 'What' or 'How': 'What do you need to do about this room to clean? Or how can we make it easier?
2. Ask Your Opinion: If we find that our child has difficulty, our immediate response as a parent is to deliver what we believe is a logical solution.
Do not you remember more homework? Write them in a diary! Problem solved! That's how it is until we discover the planner intact in our son's backpack three weeks later.
What appears to you to be the perfect solution may not be right for your child at all.
Instead of trying to solve the problem yourself, ask your child what it thinks is a good solution. Make a list of choices, even those that seem completely absurd and ridiculous, and let them vote.
Engaging your child in developing a solution will help you develop problem solving skills and is more likely to be involved in your participation because it feels like it belongs and wants it to work. ,
3. Anticipate collapses: If you know that your child is having difficulty switching from activities to rain in the toy's play shop, take proactive measures.
Give some warnings before the transitions: "We'll leave the park in 10 minutes!", Then "Okay, we'll leave in 5 minutes!" Take an extra spin on the slide and then collect the sand toys. "Using a real timer your child can see and hear may also be useful.
Discuss with your child what to expect when you leave the house and how to avoid falling. "I know you'll be disappointed when it's time to go home." What will we do to make sure we give a good mark?
4. Teaching Coping Skills: Children have difficulty navigating in strong emotions or stressful situations. It will be very useful for them to learn simple coping skills that they can use in difficult times.
Create a table that is divided into emotions such as anger, sadness, boredom, frustration, and so on. Then brainstorm with your child and suggest various coping strategies that you can use when you have other feelings, such as: B. "Take a 5 minute break". "," Read a book "," Ask for help "," Make 10 jumps ", etc. Ask your child to identify their feelings and choose a strategy in the table as the emotions begin to increase.
Remember, though, that it's not time to start learning how to master coping skills! Work with your child to practice the coping skills when it is calm and receptive.
5. Praise, praise, praise: Children with ADHD or behavioral problems often receive more negative than positive attention. You may have constant problems at home and at school and have social difficulties.
That is why it is so important to praise sincerely when you see that you're fine, even if it's something as small as sitting quietly and reading a book for two minutes. Confirm: and be precise! "Thanks for leaving your book alone as you prepare dinner, good job!"
Children desperately want success, and when they see themselves as successful, their self-esteem and sense of self-efficacy awakens.
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